Learning to See Others Through the Eyes of Compassion

A Yom Kippor Story

Some of you may think that today’s lesson on forgiveness will be a little boring. If so, I ask that you please forgive me.

Here’s an anonymous Hassidic tale:

Once long ago, in the Hassidic village of Meseritz, there lived a long thin baker named Jacob—a righteous man, with a long thin chin and a long thin nose. Jacob was so upright that he seemed to spray morality from his thin lips over everyone who came near him; so the people of Meseritz preferred to stay away.

Jacob’s wife, Rachel, was beautiful and stunning. Everyone wanted to be in her soft and radiant presence.

Rachel loved Jacob her husband, too, as much as he allowed her; but her heart yearned for human affection and attention, for her husband Jacob was too busy studying Talmud or praying.

And from this seed of sadness and loneliness, she strayed.

One early morning, having worked all night long in the bakery, Jacob came home and found a stranger in his bedroom lying in Rachel’s arms.

Soon Rachel became the gossip of the town; as everyone whispered her name with contempt and shock.

Everyone assumed that Jacob would quickly divorce Rachel, for after all, he was a righteous man. But to everyone’s surprise, Jacob remained committed in his relationship to Rachel, and said that forgave her as the biblical prophet Hosea forgave his wife for straying.

But in his heart of hearts, however, Jacob could not forgive Rachel for bringing shame to his name, nor could he forget. Whenever he thought about her, his feelings toward her were angry and hard; he despised her as if she were a common whore. When it came right down to it, he hated her for betraying him after he had been so good and so faithful a husband to her.

Jacob only “pretended” to “forgive” Rachel so that he could punish her with his righteous mercy.

But Jacob’s hypocrisy did not sit well in Heaven.

The Kabbalah teaches, “As above, so below.” God orchestrates the powers of transformation and growth in the universe based on our actions.

So each time Jacob felt contempt toward Rachel, an angel came to him and dropped a tiny pebble, hardly the size of a pebble, into Jacob’s heart. Each time a pebble dropped, Jacob would feel a stab of pain like the pain he felt the moment he discovered Rachel’s infidelity.

Thus he hated her the more; his hate brought him pain and his pain made him hate.

The pebbles multiplied. And over time, Jacob’s heart grew very heavy; he could barely walk straight without feeling the immense weight of the pebbles, which now felt like boulders. With the weight of them, he looked like bent and broken man. Like Jonah in the Bible, Jacob felt weary from the pain he was carrying; he began praying to the Angel of death.

One night, the angel who dropped the pebbles into his heart, came to and told him how he could be healed of his hurt.

“There is one remedy,” he said, “only one, for the wounded heart. Jacob would need the miracle of the magic eyes. He would need eyes that could look back to the beginning of his hurt and see his Rachel, not as a wife who betrayed him, but rather as a weak woman who needed him.

Only a new way of looking at things through the magic eyes could heal the hurt flowing from the wounds of yesterday.

Jacob protested. “Nothing can change the past,” he said. “Rachel is guilty—a fact that not even an angel can change.”

“Yes, poor hurting man, you are right,” the angel said. “You cannot change the past; you can only heal the hurt that comes to you from the past. And you can heal it only with the vision of the magic eyes.”

“And how can I get your ‘magic eyes?’” pouted Jacob.

“Only ask, desiring as you ask, and they will be given you. And each time you see Rachel through your new eyes; one pebble will be lifted from your aching heart.”

Jacob could not ask at once, for he had grown to love his hatred. But the pain of his heart finally drove him to want and to ask for the magic eyes that the angel had earlier promised. Continue Reading

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Releasing The Power of One

Every year, I peer into my soul and await a revelation on what to speak about for the Jewish New Year known as Rosh HaShanah. Images and ideas create a pathway that I follow. Before being able to speak before a large community, I try to first speak to myself. Every drasha is in a sense, an autobiography of the writer. Here are some ruminations that some of you might be able to relate to, for the road that we have yet to travel.

Rosh HaShanah celebrates the birthday of one person.

Talmudic and Midrashic wisdom teaches us about the worth of a single person; he who saves one human being, saves an entire world.” The impact of one person, though arithmetically small, is capable of moving and changing human history. Rosh Hashanah celebrates the birth of one man, who justifies the existence of an entire cosmos—Adam.

Maimonides wrote in his Hilchot Teshuva, a most remarkable idea that underscores this significant point.

 Each person should regard himself throughout the year as though he were half-innocent and half-guilty and should regard the rest of humankind as half-innocent and half-guilty. If one sins, he endangers the fate of the entire world; if he acts virtuously, he brings salvation and deliverance to the entire planet. One person can save a world.

 We have often heard how powerless one person is to shape and direct the course of human history. Today many of us look at the events around the world and feel utterly helpless. Many of us ask the questions: What difference can I make? What can I do to make a difference? Perhaps more precisely: does our existence in this world really matter at all? Could Shakespeare be correct when uses Macbeth to express:

 Out, out, brief candle!

Life’s but a walking shadow, a poor player,

That struts and frets his hour upon the stage,

And then is heard no more. It is a tale

Told by an idiot, full of sound and fury,

Signifying nothing.

 Macbeth Act 5, scene 5, 19–28

 The feeling of powerlessness and futility is often seen around election time.  The real reason why thousands of people never bother to vote is because they resign themselves to the belief that their vote will never make a difference. Most of us can recall how in one presidential election, Bush, as we know, lost the popular election, only to win the Electoral College by just a handful of votes. If Gore wins the election, there is no Iraqi War; history certainly would have followed a different trajectory.

 Maimonides adds a flip side to his equation. Just as one person can save the world, so too can one person threaten to destroy it. Was Maimonides simply using hyperbole to illustrate his point? I believe he was being quite literal—in ways that he could scarcely imagine.

 On November 8, 1923, the leaders of the insignificant Nazi party met in a Munich tavern and elected Adolf Hitler as their leader by a margin of one vote. What disastrous world war might have been averted if that group had elected a different man!

 Human history has often been determined by individuals who used their power either constructively, or destructively. When the Mongolian army of Genghis Khan went through all of Asia and Russia, no army could hope to stand up to the vastly superior Mongolian armies, who fought a modern-style war in a medieval age. The Russians, Poles, Hungarians all fell before the Mongolian hoards; Genghis Khan slaughtered every inhabitant he encountered.

 If Genghis Khan enters Rome, the Roman Catholic Church would have been destroyed; if he enters Paris, the intellectual capital of Europe would have been completely decimated; had Rome fallen to the Mongols, the artistic and classical legacies to the ancient past would have disappeared forever. Without the classical artworks of the past to inspire them, would Dante, Michelangelo, or Leonardo have done? A Mongolian destruction would have prevented the age of the Renaissance; human civilization would have come to a dramatic end as we now know it; nor would there have been a Reformation or Scientific Revolution.

 Yet, none of these probable scenarios ever came to past. Why? You see, as the Mongolians were about to pass through the heart of Western civilization in Vienna, the death of Genghis Khan’s father had suddenly died. Mongolian custom demanded that all Mongolians return to the homeland and choose a new khan (leader). Fortunately for the West, the Mongolians remained where they were and intermingled with the Chinese and disappeared from history.

 One man’s death changes history. From this example, we can see just how great the power of one person can irrevocably alter human history.

 BUT CAN WE REALLY CHANGE HISTORY?

 You could argue: That’s fine and good if you happen to be the head of a State; but what about the ordinary person? What difference can the man in the street possibly make?

 Actually, it’s all about the power of belief. If you believe you are important and significant, if you believe that your existence is not some cosmic accident, if you believe that you have a purpose and a destiny, then you can indeed make that decision to not only better yourself, but also the community around you. 

 HILLEL’S ANTIDOTE TO THE “GRASSHOPPER COMPLEX”

About 2000 years ago, Hillel’s stressed that each person makes a difference in the entire world. Hillel’s famous dictum, “If I am not for myself, then who will be for me?” “If I am only for myself, then what am I? And if not now, when?” stresses this eternal truth. We exist in the here and now, and God calls upon us to make a positive contribution in bettering ourselves and our communities.

 A good illustration from the Torah captures this timeless truth. In the Book of Numbers, when Moses sent the spies to inspect the land of Israel, they spoke of their inability to conquer the land. They felt powerless against the inhabitants and wished to go back to Egypt where they would spend the rest of their lives as slaves.

The people we saw there were of enormous size. We saw giants there too ( . . . We felt like grasshoppers, and so we seemed to in their eyes.”

There is a metaphor that best describes the spies attitude is known as akridosis.  In modern English, that is the grasshopper syndrome, and the term stems from the Greek akris (grasshopper or locust). It is a classic Yiddishe disease. If you see yourself as a grasshopper, why shouldn’t others see you the same also?

In biblical times, the prophet Isaiah refers to the pagan King Cyrus of Persia, as “My Messiah,” for he would restore the Jewish people back to their ancestral homeland, after the Babylonians had expelled them over a century earlier. We may deduce that if a pagan monarch can serve as a Messiah, in terms of his redemptive role, we can all play a similar “messianic role” in bettering our families and communities.

Really, when you think about it, the entire Bible is about singular individuals who believed they could make a difference in the world around them. Whether it be a Abraham, an Isaac, or Jacob, or Joseph, or a Miriam and Moses, each of these individuals made a commitment, never realizing that a single soul would ever be aware of what they were doing or how they would be remembered by posterity.

 This is not just true of biblical personalities; it is no less with modern heroes and heroines of the human spirit, e.g., those pious Christians like Oscar Schindler, who made the moral choice to save Jewish lives during the Holocaust—even if it meant certain death for defying Nazi orders.

 The same may be said of another man’s vision—Theodore Herzl inspires a new generation of Jews to realize a dream that Jews for centuries had long given up—a return to their ancestral homeland. When we stand together as a community, united and strong—there was nothing they couldn’t achieve. The founding fathers and mothers of Israel demonstrated how a united people could indeed triumph over the Many. The ability to see themselves as powerful and capable is precisely what enabled the State of Israel to out-survive all the negative prognosticators, who believed that the fledgling state would never survive its first year.

Israelis survived because they understood the Power of One.

Our own community may yet serve as another example; although we are a small congregation, as I mentioned this past Shabbat, the greatness of a person is never in its physical size, but in its heart and soul. Earlier we mentioned how Maimonides pointed out earlier, every person is capable of bettering the world; but the process of change must really begin first with ourselves. Rosh Hashanah affords us the opportunity to recalibrate our souls. .  .

 Before we start tackling the real problems of our world, during this season we need to focus more inwardly instead. In what is perhaps his most famous aphorism, Rabbi Salanter wrote about the challenges of change: Continue Reading

A Rosh HaShanah Meditation

ROSH HASHANA
EVENING DRASHA

Rosh Hashanah celebrates the anniversary of the creation of the world. It was on this day, according to tradition, God created the world.

There is a very intriguing passage in the Jerusalem Talmud (Brachot 1:1) that reads:

The ministering angels of heaven gather around the Holy One, and ask: “Almighty God! When Rosh Hashanah begins?” God replies “Why are you asking me? Let us go down and ask the people of earth: “When does the New Year begin?”

One would expect that the Creator would have given a precise answer. What an odd response! This kind of answer almost sounds like, “It sure beats me! How am I supposed to know? Let’s ask somebody else who knows.”

Rabbinic wisdom frequently expressed their wisdom through hyperbole and paradox. What did the ancient rabbis have in mind when they said such a thing?

I believe that Jewish folklore may hold a very valuable key to answering to our original question – “Doesn’t God already know when Rosh Hashanah begin?”

Perhaps the Sages wished to teach us that it is not God who makes the New Year, the New Year begins with our readiness and commitment to renew life.

According to the Kabbalah, the Bible of Jewish mysticism, God did not create us to be mere receivers or “takers” of God’s divine blessings, but to be givers and dispensers of God’s abundance. This spiritual attitude is well known in the annals of Jewish folklore. In the old Shtetle of Europe there was a whole class of people who were popularly known as the “Schnorers.”

Enter the Schonerer.

What’s a schonerer? According to Jackie Mason, a schonerer as a resourceful beggar who spends his whole life figuring out how to live off other people. He’s not successful unless he feels he can make his way through life for nothing. You may recall how the schonerer was one of the more colorful characters in Shalom Aleichem’s “Fiddler on the Roof.”

Whenever schnoring, the schonerer made his usual request modestly, firmly, with a sense of entitlement. He knew that everyone had an obligation to give. He lived on his quit wit. Once a schnorer knocked on a wealthy man’s home, the owner replied, “I haven’t a cent in the house right now. Business has been bad. Come back tomorrow.” said the householder. “Ah, my friend” said the schonerer, “Do I look like I work for a Hebrew Loan Society? You’d be amazed to know what a fortune I have lost by giving people like you credit!” Another version of the story reads,” Because business for you has been bad, must I have to suffer?” quips the Schonerer.

There is a well-known story about a schnorer that once went to Barron Rothschild and asked the rich Barron for a hand-out. The Barron refused, the schnorer was not about to take no for an answer, he started shrieking to the top of his voice, “My family is starving to death, and the Barron refuses to see me!”

The Barron relents “I’m defeated. Here is a sum of 20 thalers (dollars). Let me give you some advice. If you hadn’t made so much noise, you’d got forty instead of twenty.”

The schonerer counting the money said, “Sir. You are a banker; do I give you banking advice? I’m a schnorer; don’t give me schnoring advice!”

The schonerer is no ordinary moocher. He did not ask for alms, he demanded them. Typically, the schonerer was daring, brash, and cynical. Schnorers could often quote Talmud with the best of rabbis. He was quick on the verbal draw. A schonerer was full of hutzpa; they were experts in exploiting one of the most psychological forces that is pervasive in the Jewish psyche everywhere–guilt.

Although Jewish history has always had its share of Schnorers, it was never the kind of occupation any Jewish parent would want their child to aspire to. A doctor? Yes. A lawyer? Maybe. A stock broker? Yes, but a Schonerer? Never!

As the Kabbalah intimates, on Rosh Hashanah, God does not want us to behave as if we were nothing more than spiritual schnorers begging God for the gift a New Year, He expects each of us to make the New Year special. The New Year does not begin in Heaven; it begins whenever human beings decide to re-sanctify their lives anew.

Practically speaking, all our actions, behavior, and thoughts during these two days determine how our destiny will unfold in the forthcoming days. Not only must we make the vessel for God’s blessings, we also have to find innovative ways to expand the vessel so we can attract a greater flow of abundance.
Knowing that our fate is in our hands, the question becomes for each of us:
“So, what am I going do about it?”
Here’s something you can do. Over the next 10 days, make two lists: one containing all the things you want in the coming year; the other outlining the behavior that will get you those things. Now, keep in mind one of the basic requisites of the Kabbalah:

In order to get something you have to give something. The Blessings we ask for, an asiaat Ha-clei. Without a vessel, without a receptacle that is strong, we cannot receive God’s blessings fully.

What are some of the things we pray for on Rosh Hashanah? I will give only a few examples, I believe if you reflect on the words of the Avinu Malanu prayer, you will discover other meanings that are no less spiritually relevant to your lives.

I. We pray for Bracha – blessing.

To receive a bracha, we are told in our sacred tradition, we become a blessing. The story of Abraham should serve as an excellent model. Abraham is told: Be a blessing – vehee bracha!

What a powerful phrase. It’s as if God is telling him: Don’t think that blessings are something that will fall out of the heavens without any effort on our part. It is not a matter of merely possessing the blessing, if we wish to be blessed, then we must become the blessing. Our very presence must emanate goodness and kindness. Let every breath we breathe exude God’s blessings (bracha) to our loved ones and neighbors around us.

II. Another thing we pray for is healing.

If desire healing, we must expend healing to those around us in our communities and in the world. Comfort the afflicted whenever possible; send monies to those who are experiencing hardship; visit the sick. Learn to recognize the healing energy that each of us possesses.

III. We also ask God for Silicha and Michilah – pardoning and forgiveness.

Central to the theme of the Ten Days of Repentance is the importance of personal renewal. So long as we find ourselves “stuck” in the past, we will experience the blessing of forgiveness. If we wish to receive God’s forgiveness and pardon, what are we prepared to do? Do we forgive easily? Do we hold on to grudges, to hatred and animosity? Does anger govern and define our life? Starting this evening, it is time to let go of the old hurts, of grudges, hatred and animosity. Only then can you be a worthy vessel for God’s forgiveness. The Talmud teaches that he who forgives others receives forgiveness from God. Continue Reading